Dear Brad,

You can say that again.

I am no expert on morality, however I have my share of experience with flings.

Not Everyone is Looking for a Committed Relationship

I agree. It sounds pretty typical to me.

You and I are the same age and I think there are actually a lot of people like you out there, male and female. Not everyone wants to be in a committed relationship.

You Have a Double Standard

I find myself having to explain to guys that my feelings aren't going to be hurt if we hook up and we don't fall in love. The sting comes when people take that to mean I am a "dirty girl" as you say. A man's virility is applauded when he "gets some" while females are looked as sluts.

That "morality" doesn't sit well with me so while I play the game, I am selective. Maybe what I look for can help you in finding people who are at the same point in their lives as you.

Here's What I Look for...

When I go out, I appreciate guys being brave enough to approach me. Maybe I'm not typical, but while a person's appearance is important, personality can go a long way, so unless the approach is ultra sleazy, I rarely give the instantaneous shut down. I want to be with people who are fun and unpretentious, who can have a nice conversation but not be too serious.

Even if I've had a great time with somebody all night, it does not guarantee we'll end up horizontal or even exchanging numbers. If anything does happen, it is only with people that I feel can handle it...meaning we would either stay friends or if we were to bump into each other again it wouldn't be awkward and most importantly, that they keep their mouths shut. There is nothing worse than hooking up with someone who's a talker.

People Should Know What They are Getting In To

I think the most important thing is that while you may not be willing to make an emotional investment in people, you have to take the time to know what you're getting into.

But it sounds like he IS getting laid every time, and by the NICE girls. He makes it sound like he is living the typical male fantasy.

You don't have to masturbate the rest of your life, but don't expect to get laid every time you go out or you'll for sure end up with the freakiest of people.

Lastly, be warned: don't be surprised if you actually do meet someone you connect with, and she keeps you at arm's length...maybe she's just looking for a fling.

Not all hearts are yours to break.

-Alicia