Dear Panel,

I'm writing you because, like many guys, I'm in a moral dilemma.

I'm currently 23 years old, and I've had one major three year relationship that ended two years ago. We were engaged and the whole bit. For two years after, I fell into the "nice guy" zone, and didn't date much at all. But oh...I had many girls in the "let's just be friends" zone.

I don't get it. As I said in my novel, I check the babe section of the bookstore to improve MY social skills, but it hasn't led to incredible passion.

Then, I read a few succeeding with women books, and now I have incredibly passionate relationships with more girls than I'd ever hoped for. The problem is, even though I never directly lie to them about just wanting to have a fling, I don't tell them the straight forward truth either.

I have before, and they've run like all hell, so I stopped telling them directly, and just keep them guessing. Eventually I end up breaking it off after about a month or so. I'm not interested at all in a committed relationship, and I don't know if I ever will be, unless the absolute perfect girl comes along.

Anyway, what I'm asking is: am I doing something morally wrong? Or should I just masturbate the rest of my life?

Hey, I'm not a nasty girl, you just have a double standard.

Maybe, I should just tell them my intentions straight up, and catch the few that slip by. But, then I'm left with really nasty girls, that I don't want around in the first place.

Can you help me sort out my confusion? Geez, when I was a nice, normal guy I couldn't get a woman if my life depended on it, now I'm all screwed up, and I have them banging down my door. I swear.

Sincerely,

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