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You're wondering if this
is morally wrong? I'm surprised you even need to ask the question.
Yes, of course what you're
doing is morally wrong.
You just admitted to
the male stereotype that most women fear. First of all, it is never
OK to lie to a woman, or to anyone for that matter. Second of all,
sleeping around is pathetic, sleazy, and very wrong. Besides, you
will never be truly fulfilled this way.
It
May Seem Like Fun...
This may seem fun now,
but in the long run you will find yourself even more empty and unfulfilled.
Ask yourself this: how would you feel to be used for sex and then
dumped like a hot potato? Is hurting others, including yourself,
worth a cheap thrill? And what happens when you do find someone
you want to commit to? Will you be so blinded to the value of women
and of a healthy committed relationship that you are not able to
appreciate her? Worse yet, you could get a disease and pass it along
to who knows how many others.
Time to GROW UP!!
One of the greatest misconceptions
men have these days is that the "nice guys" can't attract a girl.
That is so ridiculous! Quality things take longer to achieve or
build than cheap and worthless things. A fling comes and goes very
easily, but a quality relationship with a respectable girl that
has some real potential for lasting happiness will take longer to
come around, and longer to cultivate.
It takes effort, but
it is worth the wait because it will have more permanence and fulfillment.
It will provide you something a fling will never give: mutual respect
and commitment, security and intimacy, give and take that allow
you to grow emotionally and spiritually.
One other thought: you
mentioned that you will probably never want a committed relationship
unless the "absolute perfect girl comes along." Well, you will be
waiting for quite awhile, because there is no such thing as the
"absolute perfect girl." Nobody's perfect.
You really need to understand
what a healthy relationship is and what your role as a man should
be in that relationship. And you especially need to know that to
attract a quality woman, you need to be a quality man (see
my bio for more on that...).
If
You Are Looking for a Good Advice Book...
And remember not to believe
everything you read in those "succeeding with women" books. Just
because it's an advice book, doesn't mean it is good advice. If
you're looking for truth, as opposed to just advice, give the Bible
a try.
After all, God is an
expert on relationships.
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