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You're wondering if this is morally wrong? I'm surprised you even need to ask the question.

If he is devastating these women, then I agree, he is doing something wrong.

Yes, of course what you're doing is morally wrong.

You just admitted to the male stereotype that most women fear. First of all, it is never OK to lie to a woman, or to anyone for that matter. Second of all, sleeping around is pathetic, sleazy, and very wrong. Besides, you will never be truly fulfilled this way.

It May Seem Like Fun...

You're darn right it sounds like fun. This is the typical male fantasy

This may seem fun now, but in the long run you will find yourself even more empty and unfulfilled. Ask yourself this: how would you feel to be used for sex and then dumped like a hot potato? Is hurting others, including yourself, worth a cheap thrill? And what happens when you do find someone you want to commit to? Will you be so blinded to the value of women and of a healthy committed relationship that you are not able to appreciate her? Worse yet, you could get a disease and pass it along to who knows how many others.

He is only 23. His behavior is not that atypical

Time to GROW UP!!

 

It's not a misconception. As I explained to Stuck in a Bad Loop, a lot of women DON'T appreciate nice guys

One of the greatest misconceptions men have these days is that the "nice guys" can't attract a girl. That is so ridiculous! Quality things take longer to achieve or build than cheap and worthless things. A fling comes and goes very easily, but a quality relationship with a respectable girl that has some real potential for lasting happiness will take longer to come around, and longer to cultivate.

It is only worth the effort if that is what you are looking for. But not everybody is looking for a committed relationship

It takes effort, but it is worth the wait because it will have more permanence and fulfillment. It will provide you something a fling will never give: mutual respect and commitment, security and intimacy, give and take that allow you to grow emotionally and spiritually.

One other thought: you mentioned that you will probably never want a committed relationship unless the "absolute perfect girl comes along." Well, you will be waiting for quite awhile, because there is no such thing as the "absolute perfect girl." Nobody's perfect.

You really need to understand what a healthy relationship is and what your role as a man should be in that relationship. And you especially need to know that to attract a quality woman, you need to be a quality man (see my bio for more on that...).

If You Are Looking for a Good Advice Book...

Not everyone is as biblical as you

And remember not to believe everything you read in those "succeeding with women" books. Just because it's an advice book, doesn't mean it is good advice. If you're looking for truth, as opposed to just advice, give the Bible a try.

After all, God is an expert on relationships.

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