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I'm glad you're thinking
about what you want to ask yourself rather than focusing on your
boyfriend's behavior. That is a really smart choice. Here are the
questions I'd ask myself, if I were you:
Can I live without
sex?
You have to respect your
boyfriend's decision to be a born-again virgin, but you also want
to figure out what that means to you. Are you going to have to go
cold turkey?
I'm not sure how you
define "sex", but there are activities which your boyfriend might
find acceptable that are also sexually satisfying for you. Some
could be downright enjoyable, not to mention safe. If ALL sex is
out, you need to decide how important that part of your relationship
is.
Do I trust him enough
to continue the relationship?
Why didn't your boyfriend
tell you about his vow?
Why did he
break it in the first place?
These are some issues
you may want to talk over with him. You need to have a lot of trust
to make a relationship work. I'd venture to say that you need trust
even more than you need sex.
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