I agree because... I was in a similiar situation myself and have another possibility to add to Chuck's list.

My boyfriend at the time was Catholic and I was (and am) not. He loved sex, but tended to feel extreme guilt afterwards and would run off to confession the moment it was over.

So...to solve this problem (which did not solve this problem) we simply stopped having sex. After a year of this I called it quits, as I suspected there was something else at the core.

There was.

It turned out later that all of his relationships following ours followed the same pattern. His problem had more to do with a fear of intimacy than fear of God.

It is now 20+ years later and I just heard from him. He is married and still has the same guilt-sex connection issue. It is ruining his relationship with his wife. I'm not sure if it truly has to do with the guilt that is instilled in this religion about sex in general, or if it is a deeper seated problem. I believe it is the latter.

It is best to head to a counselor if you truly want this relationship to be healthy, before AND after marriage. Being married doesn't necessarily mean the sex-guilt connection and problems will disapate.

Carol the non-Catholic