Husband,

There was never nothing – there was at least friendship.

You are fooling yourself to think that you do not love your wife. You are concerned about her, have a son you love, and seem in touch with your wife at least enough to be sympathetic to her emotional needs.

You Owe Her More Than Four Years

I disagree because no one should stay in a situation they are unhappy in.

I've never advocated staying in an unhappy situation, but marriage should not be taken lightly. When you got married, you probably said forever. You owe it to yourself and your wife to make more than a four-year attempt.

Counseling Can Help

He owes it to his son, if no one else, to give the marriage more of a a chance.

A counselor can't create sparkling, romantic love where there is none. But counseling can help you understand what you do value about your relationship, how to get more of what is important from each other, and how to look at the next years as partners to make each other happy rather than sulking and miserable.

Give your marriage a chance.

I disagree, let her know that it's over and go on with life.

Give your wife a chance, and give yourself a chance to be a husband.

Ask Your Wife if SHE Wants to Work on It

At least talk to your wife about the emptiness and ask her if she wants to try to work on your marriage. A few more months, or even a year, is a very small commitment to make to figure out a decision that will impact the rest of your life, your son's life, and your wife's life.

– Judith