Carol:

O.K., the story was a bit complex, but I think I got the gist of it.

You Agreed It Was Only For Sex

Nikita, I think that you are on the rebound and are confused. If you were looking for a friend to pour your heart out to, then adding sex to the mix wasn't your answer. You and Paul had an agreement it was just for sex. You can't expect him to be the shoulder to cry on.

Find Yourself, Talk To A Girl Friend, And Honor Your Agreement

She can start to find herself by not blaming others

You need to find yourself. You need to talk to others, preferably a girlfriend. If you were in love with him, why did you act as if you weren't, and enter into the other agreement? Why are you now upset that he has found another? What about the agreement?

Regina:

Find Somebody New

Nikita, you need to find somebody new; all this stuff is just crazy. If you were in love with him, why the hell didn't you tell him first; and then start a more meaningful relationship with him?

Lynn:

Nikita Nikita Nikita, we have all tried this type of relationship. We've tried to get our cake and eat it too. You didn't let him know about your real intentions, which were and are a relationship. Instead, you took the easy way you could have him for sex. It sounds good, but it really screws up anything for the future.

Any Man Will Take The Sex

Aren't you stereotyping him too quickly? She should at least be honest with him first!

Of course he took the sex, because any man would. Now he is seeking a girl to have a bond with that's more than sex. So you're supposed to fill his sexual needs while he gets to fall in love with another?

You have got to move on. From the start you were in denial with your feelings toward him. You were not honest. If you were, then perhaps you would have been the one (in a relationship with him). Instead, you and he decided to just have sex. Well, that's what you got -- sex; no ties, no bonds, no nothing.

It's Too Late To Tell Him You Love Him

Nobody knew, so now if you tell them, what will they think of you? What type of image are you creating? Don't tell him you love him. Its too late, girl. That's in the past. In fact, if you ever did bond, he would probably wonder if you have sex with all your male friends and not tell.

Move On And Find A Love

So get away from him. Turn over a new leaf and move on. Find a love, not a sexual fling.

In all honesty, men give attention for sex. Women give sex for love, and unfortunately for you, love was not part of the equation.