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I
Am an 18 Year Old Nice Guy
I
(Sean) am the nicest 18 year old guy in the world. I am
in a small college. Basically all I ever wanted to do was make
my girlfriend happy. I brought flowers on average about every
2 weeks she would receive fresh flowers. I would want to see her
happy just because I was happy and wanted to spread the feeling.
That's how I am...
She
WAS the Nicest Girl
K
was my girlfriend up until a couple of months ago. She WAS the
nicest girl in the world. Loved doing crafts and creative things
and I always supported her. She didn't know how to communicate
well but we were working on that. She is at a larger college about
5 minutes away from mine.
The
OTHER Guy Was in Her Program at School
I will call him "J". J was one of the three freshman in her program
with her. I understood that there were only three people starting
this year in that program and that she would be with him much
of the day. I was OK with that. He is not from around here and
came a 1000 miles to go to this college she is in.
Our
Story:
we
were good friends for about a year and a half. Then in the middle
of our senior year of high school we started dating. Everyone
of our friends said we were so cute together and we were a great
match.
It went GREAT for a while. Then came college. She started to change
and I know people change...but she didn't let me in on her changes
and wouldn't let me be there in a way to see the changes. We
were kinda rocky from that, but we were still the greatest couple
anyone has seen.
Then
she started lying to me.
She
Wanted a Break From Me
She
didn't tell me things she used to and didn't let me help with
certain things that I always did. Then it came... she wanted "time
and space".
I
admit at first I was uneasy with it. I was worried about why she
wanted it. She couldn't tell me for how long and etc. I asked
her if we were still together but just taking time away.
"Right..." she said, "Yeah."
I was OK then... two weeks went by with no contact basically and
then I heard rumors from friends so I asked my friend in one of
the same classes to tell her that I wanted to see her later that
day after her classes. I went by and instead of seeing her, my
friend handed me a note from her.
She
Left me a "Dear John" Note
In
the note she basically said some lies here and there and that
it is over. She had said that she was just sitting around for
the past two weeks and wasn't doing much... yet any of OUR friends
that went to see her always got the same thing... she is with
J STUDYING.
So
basically she is now "with" J and not me.
But
she was the nicest person in the world, besides me. No one had
ever thought that she would do such a thing.
She
has basically stopped talking to all her good friends too.
What I want to ask is... I loved "K" with all my heart. I still
do but I know its over and I have to move on. It's just things
come up and I remember things from the relationship then I feel
I need to cry.
This
is two months after the note I got from "K". I haven't spoken
to her and don't want to either. But I just want to get over her.
I have this feeling sort of and I know its not true but I keep
thinking it; How can I ever put so much effort into a relationship
when I've seen the nicest person in the world go sour?
Is there really no guarantee that someone won't go bad on me?
Can I ever put as much love into anything as I did into this without
being scared of this happening again?
It's
really hard and its putting me in a light depression. Make the
pain stop! what do I do?
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