And it's a good thing that you are not getting married, 18 is too young.

Wow...it seems that you have a lot to handle being in college, working, and planning a wedding. I understand how stressful all that is because I am in a similar situation to yours, only I am not getting married.

I am 18, work part time while also juggling my full load of college classes, my housework, my boyfriend, and putting time into my sorority. It's a lot for any 18 year old, but the added pressure of putting a wedding together can make even the happiest person explode.

Explain Your Feeling to Your Parents

I can guess the parents' reasons too, but they are still being unreasonable & manipulative.

It seems to me that your parents are trying to withdraw their side of the deal because they are afraid of losing you. They do have power over you by paying and they are using that to hold over your head. Maybe you should try and sit down with them and explain your feelings without being negative.

It's a judgment call of whether or not you should include your fiancé in these talks. He will become family, and he is a part of the wedding (he's one half!!) but he also is not a part of the family just yet.

If They Still Won't Pay, Find Another Way

Stress to your parents that you love him and that they knew you were living there. Try and find out their reasons for doing that. If they still refuse, you are going to have to find another way of paying for the wedding. Maybe take out a loan or even postpone the wedding until you are both financially stable enough to pay for the wedding yourselves. Then the only people that control the wedding are you and your fiancee.

A safer way to release steam is by using cognitive behavioral methods.

Try to keep your "flaring temper" under control even at the most tense of moments. Being one that has thrown her share of hissy-fits, I can tell you that blowing your top does not help the situation no matter how good you feel without that steam holding you down.

It sounds like your fiancé is under a lot of stress and is taking it out on you. When you attack him, all the anger just builds up inside of him until it just explodes. I know of many people that would recommend therapy in these situations, but that isn't possible if you're in a financial bind.

Have a Heart-to-Heart Talk With Your Fiancé

I have some advice for making that talk more productive

Sit down one night and have a heart to heart talk with him. Communication is so important in a relationship and unless both sides are willing to talk it will not work. Maybe fix him his favorite dinner one weekend, then sit and talk--but NO FIGHTING. If he says something angrily don't lash back at him. Fighting only makes things worse.

Since he is not going anywhere, she shouldn't get married now, 18 is too young

With all these problems I would not concentrate very hard on the wedding. I would concentrate more on the relationships in my life. As long as he isn't going anywhere the wedding can take place anytime.

Good luck in whatever you decide =)