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Dear Confused,
You do not sound ready
to be married.
You live with your boyfriend's
parents, you're in school, you work, you have a lot of things going
on in your life.
People call marriage
"settling down" because they do just that. You are so young and
everything feels big, but in a few years you will realize how at
20 there is still so much more to learn and do and feel.
Since you accepted his
marriage proposal, no matter what you say he will probably be hurt,
but he needs help seeing that he is too young to be married, too.
At least wait 'til you're out of school...you will both change so
much in 4 or 5 short years and you don't want to make a mistake
that could scar you.
I
Want to Smack You
On one hand I want to
be really nice and coddle you and tell you gently that marrying
him is a bad idea. On the other hand, I wish I knew you and could
smack you in the forehead and ask you what the hell you're thinking.
You
Both Sound Needy
You both sound really
needy and that is no reason to be married. Your life is barely beginning
and it sounds like you're still not convinced you love him as more
than a friend. You might hurt him by postponing now, but if you
go through with it you will hurt him more when you realize you moved
too fast and are handing him divorce papers.
-Alicia
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