|
I have no reservations
telling you to get away from this guy as fast as you can!
He
is Not Worth Your Energy
A man who can be in an
intimate relationship with you for two years after his marriage
is over and not say he loves you is not worth your energy! I don't
know what you are getting from him that is positive, but he has
a serious problem committing to you.
I can understand not
wanting to make long term plans because of his divorce and because
of his internship, but to not say he loves you is simply avoiding
dealing with the growth of the relationship.
The
Separation Will Be Good
The separation will be
good for you two. He may realize, as I did before I married my wife,
that you two are meant for each other. I was separated from my girlfriend
(now wife) for 18 months, and during that time, the distance crystallized
my strong feelings for her. I think you should allow him (and yourself)
to be open to meeting new people during the separation.
If he still feels ambivalent
about your relationship then it means that it's not to be.
However, if, as you explore
life separately you find you really need each other, then perhaps
you two are meant to work out after all.
I think that in love
(and life) waiting is far less satisfying than taking action.
Love, Charlie
|