Dear Panel,

I am an attractive and honest yet single mother of one. I consider myself intelligent and I need help on this one!

Rafael is very sweet and considerate. He has a great sense of humor, appears honest, stable, goal-oriented, and pretty much just all-around my kind of guy. My five year-old daughter plays a huge role in this lil' script!

Once upon a time, I met Rafael through a personal ad I had on the Internet, which clearly stated that I was looking for friendship first but nothing too serious for the time as far as relationships go.

His response was very well-written and had me wanting to know more about this man.

We have corresponded by e-mail and telephone for about 2 months now. He would like to meet in person, so would I. The problem starts here.

He agrees that I have to be responsible for my child's safety and my own (a lot of crazy folks in cyberspace, huh?), and has no problem meeting somewhere neutral (as in not where I live).

The thing is after the first couple of e-mail's I have become a little concerned about the things he writes or says. He wants to marry me, have a couple of children, house, picket fence. The whole nine yards, and in such a short time.

He changes my last name to his in the subject line of every e-mail now, says he wants our children to have my eyes (blue), and asks me what I think about names he has thought up for our children to have. The real eyebrow-raiser is the things he says of my daughter. He wants to teach her to drive when she's old enough, set examples for her; etc. all the involved in raising a child. He even wants to know if she'll be comfortable calling him daddy. She has not been allowed to talk to him, and she has a father who is a part of her life.

Other than this, I like him a lot. Some advice would be greatly appreciated here.

Should I be concerned or am I taking his feelings too seriously?

Celeste