You don't know who this guy is or what he is really like.

With Internet romances, you just never know what you're getting! It is easy to reinvent yourself on the Internet; you can purport to be anyone and can fake just about anything, and no one will know the difference as long as you are hiding behind your computer.

The fact that he is pushing this so hard (and he has never even met you) indicates that he probably wants something from you -- and he wants it quickly!

This is Why God Gave us "Gut Instinct"

I think God has given each one of us a "gut instinct" to help protect us. Women especially seem to have an acute sense of danger when something "just isn't right." I would definitely trust that gut instinct, especially since you have a daughter to protect.

The Internet has proven to be a haven for sexual predators who will fake anything just to get access to children. You should also realize that stalking often starts out this way -- as an unrealistically strong attachment that happens too fast, too soon.

Of course, I am not suggesting that Rafael is a sexual predator or a stalker, but merely making the point that anything is possible these days, especially when you are hiding behind a totally anonymous e-mail identity. In the best case, he is desperate and pushy, but it could be a lot worse than that...

Have You Told Him That You Are Uncomfortable?

That's the big question: How is she responding to him?

Have you told him that you are uncomfortable with his aggressive talk and behavior? If not, you need to do that immediately. His reaction to your requests will tell you a lot about his motives. If he continues to be pushy despite your uneasiness, then it shows that he is out to get something and doesn't care about your feelings.

You Can Keep E-Mailing, But Don't Meet Him

No way. She should stop this NOW

Even if he seems to care, you need to take your time and see whether it lasts. You might continue to correspond with him over time and see what happens, but I would not agree to see him in person until plenty of time has gone by for you to build comfort and to see his true colors.

IF You Meet Him, Do it In A Group

One other thing: I would absolutely make sure that if you do agree to see him, you do so in a GROUP setting (preferably a large group). That way, you are not as vulnerable if he is not the man he pretends to be.

By agreeing to see him alone, you have nothing to gain and everything to lose -- better play it safe!