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Congratulations on going
back to school at 36!
I did the same thing
and I recommend it. I studied hard, did some activist work, and
made lots of new friends. I also had a wonderful professor that
some of the other students and I called "Dr. Gorgeous" (behind his
back, of course) because he was so attractive and nice.
Your
Teacher Reminds Me of Dr. Gorgeous
Dr. G., as we'll call
him, was very helpful. He and I went to lunch now and then. He met
with me in his office to discuss my classwork and papers. I told
him a lot about my personal life. He told me about his. In other
words, in addition to being quite attractive, he was a caring, thoughtful,
and excellent education professional. Yet, there were no romantic
inclinations on either of our parts.
Is this professor your
Dr. Gorgeous? Maybe or maybe not. I don't think he's done anything
to indicate romance so far, so the ball's in your court.
First,
the Trouble Checklist...
Find out two things
first: -
- Is he married? (Someone
will know.) -
- Is he in your department
of study? I.e. Will you be seeing a lot of him over your college
years?
If yes to either of the
above: run, do not walk, away from romance with this man - in either
case, the result would be nothing but pain and heartache.
But if he's available
and not in your department, why not see if he can go out to lunch
one day? Get to know him a little and build from there. (Wait until
class is over for the semester, by the way.)
 Race,
Class & Gender Affect Every Interaction
As for the fact that
you are from different races, I want to say it doesn't matter, but
I think it does. I think that your race, class, and gender affect
every interaction you have with another human being. I don't know
how it comes into play in your interactions with this professor,
so I can't say. However, you are right to be very aware that the
issue is there.
A final thought: if your
Dr. G. is unavailable, just do what we did - occasionally allow
yourself to stare dreamily at him during class.
But, don't forget to
take notes.
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