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I wish I could tell you
what this guy is thinking but I don't even think he knows himself.
There is no amount of commitment in this world that can change him
and nothing you could have done or said would have changed anything.
What you need to do
now is step back from the relationship and look at it from a different
angle.
Makes
You Wonder What He Tells His Friends About You
Let's start with the
roommates hitting on you. Now, you mentioned that before anything
serious happened between you two he was telling the football team
that he was in love with you. Translation: he talks to the football
team with that oh so great "locker room talk." All of a sudden out
of nowhere his roommates and other guys are hitting on you?
Not to knock you down
but it sounds like this guy is flapping his lips to his buddies
and it's probably not about what a great personality you have or
how you have this really cool collection of shoes. Forget his friends
that are hitting on you. One or two would have been fine but a whole
bunch in a short amount of time is a little strange don't you think?
Now about his girlfriend.
Look at the situation through her eyes. Wouldn't you want to dump
him too? Here's your boyfriend at another school and he's hitting
up other women talking marriage with them? That guy would be out
of my life faster than you can say Sally sells seashells.
You
are the OTHER WOMAN
What you need to realize
is that in all this mess you are the OTHER WOMAN. You are the one
he is cheating with. If he was married you would be the mistress!
Do you really want to be that forever?!?!?
Now my question is:
why do you want to be with someone who cheats on his girlfriend?
And if he cheated on her what makes you so sure he isn't cheating
on you?
What it sounds like
to me is that this guy is passing off anything bad about him onto
you. Look at what he says to you — he tells you how pretty
you are, how smart you are, and then he says he can't see you anymore
because YOU'RE addictive? Sounds like he's passing the blame. He
also sounds like he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear-and
it worked.
He
Says What You Want to Hear
Of course he's going
to keep saying he's going to dump his girlfriend. You wouldn't be
with him if he didn't say that! How many mistresses wait in the
wings because they know that guy is going to "divorce his wife and
be with me forever." Well I believe they are still waiting.
As for him saying he
doesn't want to be in relationships? Sounds like people are finding
out his little games and reaming him out. He's suppressing his feelings
for you? For what reason? Are they that bad that he doesn't want
to even look at you? Or maybe you remind him of the girl he was
cheating on. Whatever the reason why are you letting him control
your feelings?
He's
a Manipulator
He's just a manipulator
and you can do much better than that. You hit the nail on the head
when you said that he's only staying around because he knows you'll
be there.
Pull
the Rug Out
Pull the rug out from
under him and move on. He sounds like he needs intensive therapy.
Look at your life from a different point of view.
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