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Dear Aimee,
It sounds to me like
you have been reading, " The Rules". This book came out a few years
ago claiming that playing hard to get was the way to "Catch" a man.
The main premise of this theory seems to be that men like the challenge
of the chase and will not be interested in a girl who comes on too
strongly. This seems to be your fear.
It
All Depends on Your Goals
My opinion is this...If
what you want is dates and excitement and control, go ahead, be
distant. Yes, this sort of thing does keep a certain type of guy
interested. He finds it exciting to pursue and attempt to "capture"
you.
However, if what you
want is a husband and/or a lasting, committed relationship, BE YOURSELF!
A
Good Relationship is Not Built on Games
A good relationship
is not built upon game playing or mystery. It is built upon knowing
each other completely. If you are a forward person, don't you think
a man should know that before you get married? If you are pretending
to be someone you aren't, he can never get to know that real you
and if you do end up getting married, the real you will come out
and he will be understandably shocked and concerned at your personality
change.
 If
All He Wants is the Challenge, What Will Happen if You Get Married?
Also, if you do meet
and marry a man who is attracted to the challenge of the hard to
get, what will happen once he has "Caught" you? If you are no longer
a challenge to him, he will likely move onto a new prey, perhaps
the young girl in the office.
Do you really want this
type of man? You should marry an honest, sincere, sensitive and
trustworthy man. This type of man can smell phoniness a mile away
and steer clear of game-playing girls like you. If your current
beau is expressing his dissatisfaction with your games, he may very
well be this type of man.
Jody
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