Dear Panel,

I recently moved to NC. I have a 4 year old daughter. Her mother and I have not been together since my daughter was only a few months old.

After finishing school, my daughter's mother decided to move to NC for a job. Being that my daughter is the most important thing in my life, I moved with them. For financial reasons my daughter's mother and I are living together. We have been in NC for about 8 months.

I was the one who ended the relationship with my daughter's mother. I was very young and was not ready to settle down with her. I had lost interest in her and really did not find her attractive anymore. I often found myself thinking about other girls. When we broke up, she was very upset. It has been almost 4 years since we broke up.

I have had several experiences with women in this time, but nothing close to the relationship I had with my daughter's mother. Recently I started having feelings for my daughter's mother. The reason for my feelings are confusing to me. She has made it very clear that we are good friends, but she no longer has feelings for me. I often think the reason for my feelings are simple because she doesn't like me anymore.

Most times our friendly relationship is fine. But other times I want something more. We can spend a whole day together and have a great time, and it breaks my heart that even though we are having a good time, she has no other feelings for me. Sometimes I wonder how I would react if she decided to like me again. I have a feeling I might not like her any more. But there are times when I feel I still love her very much.

What should I do?

-- Can't Work