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Dear Can't Work,
By your letter it seems
as though you really haven't decided definitely whether or not these
feelings are real. Until you have a firm grip on what you're really
feeling, my best advice to you is to keep it under raps until you
know for sure.
Why tell her feelings
you aren't even sure of yet. Are you currently involved with someone?
Maybe
You Are Just Lonely
I've seen time and time
again when someone is feeling lonely or out of place such as yourself
in a new state, people cling to someone who used to be in their
world.
She obviously comforts
you in someway, making you feel that way may have encouraged your
feelings you are now having toward her.
Your living situation
might be bringing this on. Living with your daughter and her mother,
like you were a family, might cause you to have mixed feelings.
I'm sure right now you're
in your glory being so close with your daughter. Most fathers who
are single rarely get the opportunity to live with their children.
Maybe the reason for your contemplation about your ex-girlfriend
is that you don't want to live apart from your daughter.
It would make the whole
situation perfect if you and your ex were to be reunited. You'd
actually be a family and their would be no threat of you and your
daughter living apart. It would also eliminate the threat of your
ex-girlfriend making a decision about your daughter without you.
Your
Living Situation is Clouding Your Thinking
I think right now your
situation is causing you to have these reccurring feelings. Of course
you're always going to have a special place in your heart for your
ex. She is the mother of your beautiful daughter!
But right now I feel
deep down you know what you are feeling, I just think that you living
together is clouding your vision right now.
Maybe spending sometime
by yourself, with or without your daughter, will help you sort out
your feelings. The time apart will probably help clear your head
and you will come to some sort of level headed decision.
GOOD LUCK!!
Jessica
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