Dear Alex:

I think you should tell him how you feel. You need to talk with him and see if your relationship is worth saving.

Me and my first boyfriend Eric, dated for 9 months before we broke up. He was one of my best friends before we started to date. I never had guys flirting with me, until after I started to date Eric. I felt that guys were more attracted to me because I had a boyfriend. I loved my boyfriend, but I loved all the attention I was getting from other guys.

I Waited So Long, I Ended Up Cheating on Him

Now I don't see anything wrong with flirting. I don't consider that cheating. After about 8 months of dating I felt I should move on to all these other guys that were flirting with me. Big mistake. I ended up cheating on Eric, and I realized that I couldn't picture me dating other guys, even though I wanted to.

So I decided to tell Eric what happened. He said it was ok, but we had to break up. He said it hurt him that I couldn't tell him anything. He even said all these girls were flirting with him! We thought it would be better to be friends.

Be Honest With Him

That was over 2 years ago and we are still friends. I think you need to tell your boyfriend that you love him, but you're not sure if your relationship is working out. Who knows, maybe a lot of girls have been flirting with him. If you guys break up, you might have trouble being good friends, like you were before you started to date. Try to make it work first, and decide if there's even something to save.

If it doesn't work out, don't expect to be friends right away. Give yourselves time to think things over and get used to the idea of not being boyfriend and girlfriend.

Dana