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If only life were so
simple, that we could offer "THE" solution to problems as complex
as yours...
This
Should Be Discussed BEFORE You Get Married
I don't want to get off
on a rant here, but... Marriage is a serious commitment all too
often entered into too lightly by one or both parties. Major issues
like having and raising children should certainly be discussed before
the vows are taken, but communication about this and other topics
is very commonly neglected by couples caught up in the passion and
excitement of love (at any age).
This said, your situation
is by no means hopeless or as grim as it may seem.
Generally speaking,
you and your husband should make an effort to really talk about
things that are important to you individually and as a couple, in
order to avoid potentially serious conflicts in the future.
Specifically
relating to this issue, a possible solution to present to your husband
would be adoption. I fully understand his reticence to become a
new parent (again) at or after age 50, especially to a newborn-infant-toddler,
who will require many years of doting care.
Why
Not Adopt?
An option you should
consider is adopting an older child - there are hundreds, probably
thousands, of children of all ages, from grade school through adolescence,
who need loving homes and families. I would suggest you contact
your local child/family social services office (look that up in
the government section of the phone book) and/or an adoption agency
(they'll be in your yellow pages).
I wish you and your family
the best in your new life adventure!
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