You and Chris have been on and off for almost 10 years. In that time you have managed to hurt each other deeply. From that pain, it has caused both of you to confide in others to help you come to terms with these problems.

Confiding in Family is a Double Edge Sword

Unfortunately, going to caring relatives can be a double edge sword. On one hand Chris may have found the comfort he needed in dealing with the problems and breakups of you two. When his family gave him advice, they gave him advice any family would. The kind that would protect him from any further hurt from you.

She also did some things to EARN their mistrust.

That in turn causes his family, in this case his mother, to form her own opinions about you and your relationship. She's only thinking "Well, I only want to protect my son". She probably only sees and hears the horrible things you've done to Chris, rather then the things that have made Chris stay in this relationship.

Chris sounds as if he really cares about the opinions his mother holds for you. He's probably embarrassed to have made you sound so evil in the past and to bring you around now would only make him feel uncomfortable. Like in a way he doesn't want to seem stupid for talking that way about you.

Keeping You Away From the Family Will Only Make it Worse

Not necessarily. I don't think that there should be pressure to be with his family.

Although him keeping you away from his family will only make things worse. I know when something like this happened between me and my boyfriend we really just had to jump back into the swing of things.

He needs to face his mother as a grown man and say nothing to her about you being around again. Why would he say nothing? Well, his mother's opinions of you, of him, or of this relationship should hold nothing over his head.

He doesn't have to explain his "relationship actions" to anyone, except you.