Natasha,

My easy answer for you is to get rid of him. If he loves you as you say he does, your weight shouldn't be an issue. But I guess its not all that easy, so let me try to break it down with my own experience.

For the l-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-ng story, see Alicia's Bio

To make a long story short, I went from playing 2-3 hours of tennis and soccer a day to working a day job where I sit on my ass for 8 hours and do nothing when I get home.

Your Figure Isn't the Only Thing that Changes

I agree, it is usually more complicated.

It's easy to say the sex stopped for me because my boyfriend didn't like the way I looked, but the truth is, the more I gained, the more I changed. I lost the confidence that attracted him to me and I was becoming more sensitive to things, like things that were once jokes between us before suddenly became unbearable teasing and I would get quite defensive. I just blamed it all on my weight.

This is not to say there weren't a million other things that affected our relationship and caused our demise, but it had an impact.

Now, two years after stopping all physical activity, I'm trying to get into a ritual of exercise. The thing to remember is it wasn't gained overnight, so it can't be lost overnight, either. I realize you are asking about getting intimacy back, but that is something you already know how to do. If all else is the same and he really won't sleep with you because of your body, I revert to my original answer and say dump his ass.

Staying with Him Will Make it Harder to Lose the Weight

Staying with him will only make you more depressed and also make it harder for you to build up the motivation to get your weight to a place that makes you comfortable. It might be hard, but eventually you'll find somebody who loves you whether your weight fluctuates or not. And you'll be better for it.

Alicia