Natasha,

Last month I was talking to my boyfriend and the subject of weight came up. We have been dating since January, when he came back from visiting relatives. Since that time both of us stopped working out to make time for each other.

My Boyfriend Admitted He Would Be Less Attracted if I Gained Weight

After a couple of months we both decided we wanted to start working out again. I was not as motivated as he was. A conversation ensued where I asked him what he would do if I began gaining weight. With me being petite he told me that he would not feel sexually attracted to me and in turn might not want to be with me as much as he did before (sexually speaking).

At least your boyfriends is honest enough to admit how he would react.

I was hurt and appalled that my boyfriend would think like that. He had been gaining some weight and I was still in love with him and attracted to him just the same.

A Fact About Guys: Appearance Matters

I wish I could change that fact about guys but it's something we women must deal with and conquer. You stated that you believe that your boyfriend isn't as into sex as before, but have you asked him? Speculation will only hinder a relationship, not help it.

I can't believe that she is intimate enough to have sex with him, but can't talk to him.

Take some time out and sit down with your boyfriend and ask him what's been going on. Maybe it isn't your weight at all. He might be having problems with work that he can't shake when he comes home from the office, or maybe he's having problems with his family or a close friend that he doesn't feel like sharing with you at this time in your life.

If he is acting this way because of your weight then you have a decision that you must make. Try discussing it with him. You can stay with him and try to work out your weight together. Maybe join a gym or buy workout tapes and work out together at home. Or both of you can try a diet together. Whatever it is try and include him on what you do so he can see how much you are trying.

On the other hand would he be the type that would dump you just because you gained a few pounds? What exactly is he in the relationship for? The only way to find out is to talk to him about his feelings. Communication is key to any relationship.

As for me I have found that tae-bo works wonders and I do it in the privacy of my own home. I have toned my body better than I have in my whole life. My boyfriend can't get enough of seeing my body, yet I think I'm going to hold off until he gets to that gym more often =)