It is hard to make relationships work between people with somewhat fundamental differences - differences in personalities, in styles, and even in values.

You Have Big Differences

It sounds like you have differences in a lot of areas:

• She likes to party, you like nights at home;
• you want to settle down, she wants to still explore her options;
• you think of relationships as something for mutual respect, understanding, and comfort, while she views them as a place to work out issues, have someone to hang out with, etc.

Differences shouldn't be overcome, they should be celebrated!

Neither is bad, there is just a lot of difference to overcome.

You do sound very in love. And despite the somewhat questionable beginnings of your relationship, she has displayed a strong commitment to you (she moved to another country to be with you, after all!)

Talk to Her

No. There are real issues here, and they have already shown that they cannot talk about them.

Can you talk to her about what you expect from a relationship, what aspects of a relationship are important to you, and what you envision for your future? Can you ask her to do the same? What are you willing to compromise on, and what things are not negotiable? You may find that your differences are reconcilable after all. Or you may not.

I suspect that even if you find that a relationship won't work right now, you will continue to date and maybe let your relationship grow on its own momentum rather than the pressure of having someone arrive on your doorstep.

That relationship will be much more healthy and natural.