What's going on here is that you have two people who claim that they love each other yet are not communicating well. As I have said before communication is sooo important--and it doesn't look like it is here.

Now let's look at what's going on from both sides of the fences. On one side of the fence there is Steve, who is struggling to excel in school, which has put any relationship he is capable of having on the back burner. He knows what he wants and can't imagine everyone else not knowing the same.

On the other side of the fence there is Girl in a Glen who is struggling to find out what she wants out of life. In effect she has moved away, making the relationship even harder.

I think she also knows who she wants to be with, it is obvious.

Caught in the ruckus is Matt and Meg, both helpless bystanders who have been pulled in, Matt more so than Meg. Now Girl in a Glen needs to decide who she wants to be with while Steve knows who he wants to be with.

OK, now that my thoughts have been gathered here's the way I see it. Please bare in mind this is my humble opinion. I have suffered through the "which boy should I choose" sleepless nights and also the "am I going to lose him to this other person" horrible days so I am completely impartial to you both.

My Advice:

This is my response to Girl in a Glen's half of the answer. I'll call you Glennie for short.

Glennie, you really need to figure out what you want in a relationship and who you want to be with. You have painted yourself into a corner with Matt on one side and Steve on the other. But what do you honestly want?

Forget everyone in this world and pretend that it is only you and this letter in the world. In the letter you wrote you said that you could never love Matt the same as you love Steve. But do you love Steve enough to leave Matt?

I don't agree. Even if she thinks she loves Steve, they need a break for now.

If you honestly love Steve and want to have a relationship with him then you will have to cut the ties with Matt. You and Steve need to talk and set up boundaries for the long distance relationship to work out. It's hard and some days it seems to be worse than others, but true love will conquer all (corny but it's oh so true).

And they would say bye bye again, at least 20 more times.

On the other hand, do you want to get back together with Steve with the risk of you two saying bye bye again because of his school work?

Matt is available and safe. So your question is who should you choose? Well I can't make that decision for you. When I find myself in this situation I ask myself: do I want to really be in a serious relationship or just have fun and date around.

Ask yourself that, then sit down and make a list of pros and cons of each guy if you really can't choose. Whatever you do you need to make a decision soon, or else you run the risk of having both guys gone.

Whatever you decide I wish you the best of luck.