Dear Hopelessly in Love:

I think you should let him go, and get him some help.

It's Not Healthy for You If He is into Drugs

You're right. She should stay away, otherwise she might get drawn into drug use.

I understand that you love him and want to be back with him, but you don't want to get involved with someone who is always doing drugs, or hanging around people who are. That wouldn't be a healthy situation for you.

If you want to get back with him, I suggest you wait until he isn't doing drugs anymore, and decides that he wants to get some help. And even then you should just be a friend to him, and give him some support.

My Friend Was in a Situation Similar to Jesse's

My friend started getting into drugs after he and his girlfriend broke up. I think he turned to drugs because he felt he didn't have anything left. He got into heavy drugs and got into a car crash one night. He wasn't hurt badly, but he was in the hospital for a few days.

He learned he had a lot left, and went to a counselor and is doing fine now, and he is friends with his ex-girlfriend now.

Don't Stay with Someone Who is Hurting Themselves

I don't think you should get involved with someone who is hurting themselves like that. It may take you some time to find someone else, but it will happen.

If he ever does want to get back together, though, she should make it clear that he can't take her for granted.

Maybe when Jesse decides he has a lot more going for him then drugs, then he will want to get back together with you.

Don't get your hopes up though. He might need time to think if he is ready to get back into a relationship with you.

You need to give yourself some time to think things over and decide if you want to get back into a relationship with Jesse.

Dana