It sounds like Jessie has A LOT of growing up to do.

You mentioned that the last time you talked about getting back together, he said that he didn't want to and that it didn't seem like he would ever want to. Don't throw yourself at him; if he wanted to be in the relationship, he probably would have responded differently.

Even if they were just friends, though, she deserves better from him. He should not abandon her.

Do you really want to be with someone who says he doesn't want to be with you? Move on to someone who truly is interested in a relationship with you!

The Behavior Change Concerns Me

But to me, the real issue here seems to be the drug abuse problem and recent change in his behavior and friends.

You said that Jessie has changed a lot and that he got into harder drugs and hangs out with others that also do drugs. It is very common for guys at his age to change a lot, especially in their early twenties.

Steer Clear of Him

Is it possible that you are still in love with who he was when you were dating? If so, you need to realize that he is not the same person he was nine months ago. It is also possible that you think he will outgrow this "phase" or that he has cleaned up his act. But until you know for sure, you need to steer clear of him altogether.

Stay Away From Anyone that Does Drugs

I would never, ever enter into a relationship with someone who abuses drugs! The problem usually gets worse, not better.

I agree. This is not healthy.

This is an extremely dangerous lifestyle. If you think you will be strong enough to say no to drugs while your boyfriend is doing it, you may be in for a surprise. As you grow closer together and become more involved in his lifestyle and circle of friends, there is a greater chance you will do the same thing he is doing, or that the drug abuse will completely ruin your relationship anyway. It will be harder and more painful to walk away then than it is now.

It may not seem like it now because of your longing for Jessie, but you will have plenty of opportunities to meet other guys who have a brighter future and who will want to be with you and appreciate you.

Don't settle for an immature guy who is throwing his life away... Wait for someone with character to come along!