Stench Equates to'Turn-Off'

There's a strange phenomenon with these human bodies of ours. We can easily detect the scent of another's perfume or cologne, but when we put our own on, we care barely detect it. The same mysterious circumstance takes place when someone has body odor. They may not be able to detect it or even be aware that there is a problem with odor, but everyone else around them may be wondering how many loaves of garlic bread they have devoured in the last hour.

Some people have a natural and distinct body odor that can become even more 'fragrant' with the ingestion of certain foods, such as garlic or onions. Does your boyfriend eat a lot of spicy foods or garlicky pastas?

Try Chlorophyll

There are fairly easy solutions to such problems. Sometimes taking a few capsules or swigs of chlorophyll each day (a harmless green substance available in most health food stores) can deodorize the body from the inside out. Other times, a very strong commercial deodorant may be in order.

It WILL hurt his feelings, it is hard to hear that you are not odorless.

It's a must to communicate the fact that your boyfriend has a body odor that is none-too pleasing. The question is how to do this without hurting his feelings? This is a tricky issue.

Give It a Positive Spin

Hey, I've been there. It can be real frustrating if he figures out that she is beating around the bush.

You might begin by telling him what a 'turn-on' it is for you to smell freshly showered hair and skin. You could communicate to him that when you smell that clean scent on him, it makes you want to attack him and have your way with him! This puts a positive spin on the issue and offers a reward for his cleanliness. You could make this a fun exercise, in that the next time you see him you could give him a gift wrapped bar of your favorite soap with a note on it that says something like 'I'm ready when you are.' You've planted the seed. You've offered a gift. Now it's up to him to follow through your lead.

Blame it on Someone Else

If this non-direct approach doesn't seem to work, perhaps the next best step is to come right out with it and say "You probably don't notice it, but you might benefit from a stronger deodorant. Sometimes I'm sure others can detect you and you don't want people at work (or school) to be making remarks about you behind your back", or something along these lines. It might be easier to put the blame on others and what others might think, rather than on yourself.

I think that honesty should be her FIRST approach.

If All Else Fails... Be Honest

See if either of these two suggestions does some good. If not, it may just be time to spell things out in black and white. "You have body odor. It turns me off more frequently than it turns me on. Please shower more frequently and/or use deodorant on a regular basis."

It won't embarrass him as much if she finds the right setting to tell him.

Sometimes shooting from the hip offers the clearest message with the most beneficial result, but you risk embarrassing him or perhaps hurting his feelings. Try the milder approaches first and see how things go.

Best of luck!

Carolcat