Dear Stupid Girl-

Funny how such a simple question stumped me.

I'm just gonna say this straight out...there are a lot of assholes out there.

You have to be aware of them and not fall for them, like I did.

Not all, but a lot of guys have these preconceived notions about themselves and the roles they are supposed to play versus the roles women are to play. It's pretty much the standard that it is acceptable for guys to have one-track minds...namely that they want to get girls in bed.

You're right, we are conflicted about sex. We need the woman to tell us NO.

The Catch 22 is that when they finally get the prize, especially if it happens soon (by their mothers' standards??), they've already gotten what they wanted, the mystery is gone.

Now you've gone from a girl with the potential to be a girlfriend to a girl who is easy and puts out. Its not fair, its not nice, but sometimes that's just the way it goes.

As I said before, the answer is that she needs to make sure that she has the same understanding about sex as the guy.

I don't know what advice to tell you except that you need to be comfortable with who you are and with your own sexuality and be confident about the decisions you make and the actions you take.

No Man has the Right to Judge You

No guy (or girl for that matter) has the right to judge you, especially since sex takes two. If he dumps you for sleeping with him he is not worth your time anyway.

Stupid Girl, in this case, you are not the stupid one.

-Alicia