Brant,

Well to start things out you need to be very very careful.

An Office Romance is a No NO

Are office relationships allowed in your workplace? Most often they aren't so what you are doing might be illegal. You could get fired. I am not a believer in office romances. You might be saying, "So what?" but I was in an office romance and let me tell you what I have found.

What if the two of you start to fight? Well rumors fly around an office just like they did in high school. That great water cooler keeps everyone entertained. This relationship could mess up your work. You can't get away from her because she will always be there. But enough about this let's get on with your question.

I'm not sure what your question exactly means. What do you want to deal with? The fact that you both work together or the fact that she is hung up on her ex?

It's Hard to Get Over an Ex

Well, the ex part is very hard to get over. Recently being in that situation (and I still am) all I know is that it takes time for the ex to be bled out of her system and also trust and patience on your part.

To help him figure out what she wants, he should confront her.

What she might be looking for is either to get back together with her ex, or just some type of closure. Whatever the case, if you love her and want to be with her, you need to figure out what she wants.

If she wants to stay with you but still needs closure, thats where the patience and trust comes in. If she can't move on for other reasons then you might need to start looking elsewhere.

She might have used you to try and get over her ex but has found that isn't possible. Whatever the case, it might be brought out by that office cooler, so i would be very careful with what you do with her. You don't want to end up the subject of that nasty rumor going around do you?

Dakota