Dear Brant,

I'm trying to read between the lines in your letter, but I keep getting confused.

You are not "attracted to even slightly overweight women", yet you are attracted to Jamie who is "heavy". And then you go on to say that she flaunts her breasts "every way possible."

What the heck does that mean? I think that means that you have issues. I am just not sure with what they are. If Jamie is proud of her breasts, I think she should be right up front with them. Whatever.

Yes, she said she loved him, but she may not mean the same thing when she says love. She may not have the words to express her feelings.

Jamie seems like she's been honest with you. She's told you that she loves you, but is still hung up on her ex-boyfriend. Yet you have been anything but honest with her. You told her that you just want to be friends but you have sex with her and have deeper feelings for her. And you feel conflicted because you work with her. AND you have this thing about her breasts which I am probably going to go home thinking about.

Hey, decide what the mature 25 year-old thing to do is.

Be honest in your dealings with her, treat her like a person, and know that she is probably as uncertain about many things as you are. You do work with her, and being polite and civilized, especially in the workplace, is a good thing to practice.

If you both like each other, spend some time in working on your relationship.

But figure out what your issues really are.

Lefty