Dear Worried,

Yes, but it sounds like she is NOT ready.

My motto for making the first move about anything, is "JUST DO IT".

Its not easy making the first move, especially for girls, because we are so used to having the guys make the first move. But if you're gonna make the first move, you're gonna have to just do it.

There's no simple way of making the first move.

I Am Glad that I Made the First Move On a Date

I remember I went on this date with this incredible guy. I had an amazing time. When he was dropping me off at my house, he didn't even make a move. I really wanted to kiss him, so I just leaned over and kissed him. I'm glad I did it, because it put me in control of how long I wanted that kiss to last. He even told me he was glad I made the first move, because he wasn't sure if I wanted him to kiss me.

Kissing Your Boyfriend is a First Move Towards Sex

But wait, there's more. Once you've made the first move, you can't just lie there like a lump.

If you want to make the first move, on initiating sex, just start out by kissing your boyfriend. That would be the first move.

If you make the first move and decide you don't want to have sex, you can say no at anytime. If you're not comfortable initiating sex, or just making the first move, then tell your boyfriend that you're uncomfortable. Some people have a hard time making the first move. Some get embarrassed, and become really shy.

Before you make the first move, make sure that you are comfortable with making the first move. If you do tell your boyfriend, I'm sure he will understand, and not pressure you to make the first move until your ready.

Dana