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Dear Worried,
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I
don't think that she's saying they skipped these stages. Just
that he made all the first moves in these stages. |
It seems to me that you
may have blown by the first stages of relationships. What happened
to hand-holding? What happened to innocent little smooches? What
happened to playful wrestling?
In 6 months, I would
hope that you did some of those things, rather than zooming into
more intimate stuff. Because that's where you can easily experiment
on who does what to whom first.
Do you feel comfortable
walking along with him and holding his hand before he reaches for
yours? Do you feel comfortable giving him a hug for no other reason
that you enjoy seeing him? This really isn't only about jumping
on him first when there's a couch or bed around.
Relationships are about
both partners reaching out and learning new things. Your boyfriend's
request is certainly reasonable and I also believe that both partners
should try to equally instigate acts of loving.
However, instead of him
telling you and teaching you, I think you might want to experiment
with what you feel comfortable with, and perhaps at a lesser stage
of intimacy.
Lefty
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