Dear Panel,

I have being going out with my girlfriend for about a year. I have been totally honest with her about all aspects of my life past, future..etc. And she tells me she has also. Then it seems every couple of months she tells me something she lied to me about.

For instance: She told me that she a been raped and over came it and what not at the beginning of the relationship, and she said that wasn't her only sexual experience, she had slept with a previous boyfriend.

Then 6 months later she tells me she didn't have sex with her previous boy friend just the rape situation (which in my mind doesn't count?).

I was very confused on why she lied to me but we worked it all out. I asked her if there was anything else she lied to me about and if there where any more secrets that she wants to tell me about. She said "no".

Now just recently she tells me about how one time she passed out and woke up with one of her friends (a girl) going down on her. She pushed her off and what not.

I hate to think that I make her feel like she can't tell me things.

I like to think I'm a understanding person and what not, but when she springs these things up on me after she swears up and down that there is nothing else she wants to tell me.

I dunno what I'm doing wrong. Why does she feel she can't just tell me these things, instead of springing them on me out of no where? I dunno how to react or what to think?? I just want her to be able to trust me... then I lose trust in her cuz I feel lied to.. I dunno.. Any help would be great..

-Issues