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Your girlfriends has
been raped. That's something you should think about. She might have
lost confidence in men after that experience.
She
May be Afraid of Sex and Men
She said she had sex
with an old boyfriend, but later she told you it's a lie. I think
she's afraid to tell you about her fear of sex, and men.
Do you have a good physical
relation? If so, then I think you can believe her when she says
she's over the rape. If you don't, she might still be scared of
men and the intimacy.
A rape is a horrible
experience and it's something you don't just forget. After a while
the pain will disappear, but you will always have the memories of
it. You should ask her why she can't trust you, and ask if it has
anything to do with the rape.
But
You Do Have a Right to Honesty
You should also think
about yourself. Tell her to tell you everything about her past that
you should know (like other experiences with men). It might end
up in a fight, but you are right, in a relationship you should be
honest with each other, or there can't be a serious relationship.
Tell her to think about
that and maybe get away from each other for a little while. You
don't have to break up, but it can't go on like this. She has to
understand you're sick of her lies.
Good luck,and lots of
love.
xxx ERNA
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