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Dear "Not
A Player",
Who says you're not a
player?
Maybe
You're Just Lonely
You dumped this guy who
sounds great twice and now you say you've changed? Is that really
true, or are you just in a period where you are feeling lonely and
Mr. Loyal is still around?
Why IS Mr. Loyal
still around? What kind of a person comes back after being dumped
twice because of how he looks? Do you respect a person like that?
Why do you suddenly no longer care about how he looks?
 Find
Someone New to Try it On
Listen, if you truly
have changed, then give it a fresh start. Find someone who really
turns you on, and be true to that guy. Don't do something out of
guilt.
You had your reasons
for moving on from Mr. Loyal, that's okay. He will survive. You
are clearly moved by his loyalty and friendship, but I'd be careful
about saying you've really changed until you've proven it to yourself
with someone who you don't have this history with.
I have been Mr. Loyal
before and it's painful. The best thing you can do for him is leave
him alone. Really. If you love him, let him go. You've got him on
some kind of string and neither of you will likely have a healthy
connection because of all of this yo-yo-ing around.
So bottom line:
if you've changed, prove
it to yourself with a great guy you can be proud of and loyal to
in return.
Love,
Charlie
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