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Your boyfriend is your
good friend and a wonderful romantic partner. No relationship problems
there.
You
Need Other Friends, Too
Your boyfriend is your
ONLY friend. This worries me a little. Let me count the ways:
- There is way too
much pressure on your boyfriend to fulfill your every need. As
your sole friend, he is responsible for every one of your social
interactions. This is too much for one person to handle.
- You are missing chances
to develop friendships with many great people. Romances are exciting
and fun, but friendships truly make your life rich and meaningful.
- In the event that
you and your boyfriend decided to split up, you would be left
entirely without friends to get you through it. I am so lucky
to have family and friends who nursed my miserable self through
countless break-ups. I don't know what I would have done without
them.
I realize that you were
hurt by some housemates, but that happens to all of us at one time
or another. If you are truly afraid to develop friendships with
anyone other than your boyfriend, please see a counselor. Most colleges
have counselors who offer free therapy to students. Call the health
service or ask any staff member about it. You've got a lot to offer
some new friends.
Mare
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