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Dear Broken Heart,
You ask why he's behaving
this way but the simple answer is because he can.
By staying linked with
him despite him telling you he doesn't want "to miss out on life",
you are allowing yourself to be trapped by him.
You will eventually hit
a breaking point where you might give an ultimatum or something
close to one and be fed up with this, but as long as you tolerate
his behavior, why should he change? He is getting the best of both
worlds: by hanging around and going out and being affectionate he
has a girlfriend when he needs one, but he gets the escape route
of not being in a relationship should somebody else come along or
if he hurts you.
I think in your situation
I would do what I could to distance myself from him. You need to
think about what you want and deserve in a relationship and a good
one isn't supposed to hurt. You probably have a constant hollow
ache and it won't go away until he does.
Give him time to evaluate
what he really wants. If eventually he realizes he wants to get
together, and you are still interested, then move from there,
but for you to put your
life on hold and wait on the fence for him to make a decision is
ridiculous.
You were smart in the
first place to know that you were going to get hurt, but you let
it happen anyway. It's time for you to do what makes you happy and
obviously the situation you are in now isn't cutting it.
Alicia
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