You only should loose your virginity if YOU want to, not because you're afraid you'll never see him again.

You're right it would be bad if she hasn't seen him for some time. But, even worse, it's not clear that they have EVER met.

Of course I don't know the whole situation, but don't you think it will be weird to see him again after some time? This might not be the right time to sleep with each other so soon. There will be a lot to talk about, you know like how things are going at work (if you already work, of course).

Well, if he expects sex and you don't think you're ready for it, you should tell him that sex is something between two people who love and understand each other.

Most of the time the two partners are wanting to have sex. But if one of them doesn't, then it shouldn't happen. Don't let him push you by telling you that he won't come to California anymore or something like that. Because if he does, he's not worth your "first time".

The first time should be something special, not something against your will. Another thing, is he really your dream man?

Yeah, she should at least wait until she has met him.

Don't you think it might be too soon to make sure he's your dream man? I mean, a month is not so long, and you're living far away from each other..

This is my "end-advice": just have sex with him if YOU think you're ready to lose your virginity, and if your sure he is the one to be with for the first time.

Just remember:don't do anything against your will.

Love,

Erna