Your dream man? Get real.

Have you ever seen him in person? If so, for how many days in a row? And you've been together for a month? How many times have you talked on the phone?

You Don't Want Someone That Expects Sex from a Virgin

I think that sex can wait a little bit. It can wait until you find out if this is really your dream man, if you are serious enough to each other to make arrangements to live on the same continent, and if he is a better person than to expect sex from a virgin.

If you were asking should you have sex because you really want to, I MIGHT give you a different answer. But as it is, you say you're not sure you actually want to have sex and instead say a bunch of things which lead me to believe you have a little growing up to do and a lot of getting to know this person better.

Good luck. Your visit can still be a lot of fun without sex. It is always a wonderful experience to get to know people better and have the chance to spend time with someone you care about.

– Judith