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Dear Jessica,
It sounds as though it is a one-sided effort to build this relationship.
He Sees it as a One-Night Stand
I think he may see it as a "one hot night of passion in the back
seat of a car" kind of deal. You may as well just forget about it
girlfriend, I don't think a relationship will commence given the
sequence of events and lack of enthusiasm to contact you on his
behalf.
Don't Make Assumptions
Next time, before you jump in the sack, make sure you are both
on the same page honey. You may think you know what he is thinking,
but until the words come out of his mouth, YOU KNOW NOTHING! Even
after a guy has stated his feelings out in the open (this is not
too common), be prepared for him to go back on what he has said
(they do that sometimes!).
Make Him Want You
If you are looking for a relationship, let the guy in on your
plan so that no one gets hurt, yourself included, allow time for
the male to make a decision for himself to be ready or bail. Girls
these days put everything they have into guys, trying to get them
and then trying to keep them. Let us be the first females to role
change, MAKE HIM WANT YOU!!!
Look Good When You Ask Him What's Up
Make yourself irresistible. You most definitely will not sound
stupid if you only ask him "what's up with you and me?" Just make
sure you look gooooood when you ask. It may help to talk to him
when there are some of his friends around (take a girlfriend for
support). Be out of his friends' earshot, so that if it doesn't
go your way it will save some embarrassment, later his friends may
ask, "Who was that hottie you were talking to?" Then you are in.
If He Rejects You, Make Him Regret It
You deserve an answer, however always be prepared for the worst,
it may not be what you want to hear. Just accept his answer as if
you don't really care and then make him regret it by always looking
good and having fun. That tends to work, just be cool and have a
good time with your friends, that's all that matters, there's another
guy out there for you. He'll see you.
Let Him Go If Nothing's Up
Don't pursue this guy if he says NO, that isn't cool. I don't think
that taking a stab at friendship will work with this guy, or in
any case, be worth it. Let him go if nothing's up!
Good Luck and let me know how things work out!
– Sandy
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