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Dear Anon,
My first reaction to
your letter was that he has another relationship.
There
is Not Much More that You Can Do
That might be too cold.
But, he clearly has other interests on Saturday and Sunday. That's
bothering you. If that's bothering you and you've told him that
it's bothering you...then there's not much else you can do.
What are these other
interests? Is he pursuing them because he needs a part-time relationship
only. Are you okay being part-time if that's what he really wants?
I think what's normal
is what works for both people. Your dissatisfaction is coming from
more than just "time." Maybe you don't feel like a priority in John's
life. Maybe you think that John is not putting enough effort into
the relationship. Maybe there are other ways that you feel John
should be contributing but he isn't. Is he listening attentively
to you? Is he affectionate enough? Is he paying enough attention
to where you two are headed? Are his ultimate goals the same as
yours?
The time issue can be
tricky. It sounds like you want more of something, be it time or
something else. I suggest you look more broadly at the issues and
talk with John about what you two can do to make you feel more satisfied.
It's not just "your problem."
Relationships take the care and attention of both people.
Love, Charlie
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