There really isn't a "normal" amount of time to spend together. A lot depends on the stage of your relationship, what else you have in your life, how many hobbies or activities you share, etc.

What's the Real Reason it Bothers You?

It wouldn't be unreasonable to keep tabs on him, it almost sounds lke he has another relationship.

A few questions first: Is there a lack of trust in your relationship? Are you upset about the weekends because you are not sure what he is doing? If this is the case, you need to be honest with yourself about that - that wanting to spend more time together isn't about enjoying his company but more about keeping tabs on him.

Second. Are you fairly secure in the relationship? Do you know he cares about you as much as you care about him? If not, your need for more time may have something to do with him proving that he loves you.

If neither of those fits your situation, then you probably just enjoy his company and would enjoy more of it.

Tell Him What You Want

She has already told him what's bothering her. There is not much more that she can do.

This is a perfectly reasonable thing to tell your boyfriend - along the lines of "I love spending time with you, I don't care if it is on a romantic date or if we are doing laundry, but I would love to see you this weekend".

See what he says - maybe he has been afraid to inflict you with all of his errands and putzing around. As far as normal —the time I spend with my boyfriend has fluctuated so much over time that I just don't think I can define it.

If your boyfriend is still unwilling to spend weekends with you, you are going to either have to adjust (i.e., cultivate friendships with other people, take the chance to do activities he isn't interested in) or decide if this is important enough to be a relationship breaker.

Judith