Dear Jo-Anna:

Don't Confront Him

She SHOULD confront him, she has a right to let him know how she feels

Well my dear, if you confront Mister Wonderful, I mean Bob, about all of this, what can he possibly say that will make you feel better?

Here are his options:

1. He can tell the truth and apologize, in which case you are stuck with a guy who would do such a thing (and with your friend, no less) and probably repeat the behavior in the future, or
2. deny the whole thing, in which case you will be dating a liar. In either case, I would say Bob's goose is cooked.

And if it is not already cooked, if I were you I would cook it for him. It is time for you to realize that you do not deserve, nor should you put up with this sort of behavior from a so-called boyfriend.

Your Friend's Motives Seem Shaky

Your gal pal and her motives seem a little shaky as well. I am sure you want to give everyone involved the benefit of the doubt. If you do, you will be able to go on with things as if nothing like this ever happened. Is this a mistake? I think so.

Hiding one's head in the sand is never a good option. It's an easy way out, but its not the smartest way to proceed because past mistakes tend to bite us in the behind later on. People around us will often make mistakes. If they own up to them and act adult about the whole thing, perhaps there is a possibly for change.

Dump Bob

Bob does not sound like he is capable, at least at this point in time, in being a "stand-up" sort of guy. He is running away. He does not want to be confronted with the truth. Your best bet is to cut this fella loose while you can and find someone in your life who deserves your attention.

You're right! Never trust a man who says, "Trust me."

You say Bob tells you he will never hurt you. Guess what? He's already broken a promise. If you stay with him, I have no doubt you'll be experiencing more of the same.

Look at Your Friend Too

You might want to look at your girlfriend's role in all of this too. Is it possible that she was flirting with Bob or led him on? Men don't often jump from one girl to another unless they see a greenlight flashing and an offer to proceed.

Wake up. Find some trustworthy friends, not those who play games with your feelings. I hope you find the courage to confront them and move on down the road.

-Miss Kitty