| Dear Missing,
I'm sorry to hear about the unhappy state of your marriage. I can tell that you
want to do the best thing, and it sounds like you want to stay with your wife.
That is a good start. I think the relationship needs a lot of work, and both of
you need to be willing to put in the effort.
Talk
About It Does
your wife acknowledge that the lack of intimate contact is a problem? Are there
physically intimate activities that she does enjoy, such as cuddling? I think
you two need to open up a dialogue about sex so you can figure out where the problem
lies. You
mention at the end of the letter that your relationship isn't working in other
ways, as well. I think that may be a large part of the problem here. Many people
find it difficult to be sexual when they feel things with their partner are not
going smoothly. I am not sure if your relationship has had problems from the beginning,
as you mention that your sex life has been troubled since the start of the marriage.
From your letter, I can't tell if you have tried couples counseling, but that
may be a good place to start.
Don't
Divorce Yet I
really don't think you should be considering divorce at this stage of the game.
It sounds like you still have affection for your wife, and she has told you that
she wants to change. You may just need some outside help. I hope things work out
for you.
-- Gillian
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