| Dear Tracy, "Slow
Down!" You're
only 20, my God, what's the rush? I think that the conditions of your starting
with this guy would push anyone to the brink you both seem to be on. You're flying
into uncharacteristic rages, he's pulling back. Well, look at what's happened: You
both gave up real life choices for each other. That kind of weight will bring
down any relationship. You two need to slow down and let the dust settle. Your
passionate breakup with your ex indicates unresolved feelings, doesn't it? What
was his breakup like? Unresolved feelings are totally natural in this circumstance.
No
Relationship Is Worth That Kind of Sacrifice Because
you gave up a serious relationship and plans to go to grad school (and finish
college?) this had better be worth it. But the truth is, no relationship
is worth that kind of sacrifice. You have to take a step back and evaluate what
you need for you for the long haul. Real love will endure the slower pace while
you figure out what you're doing.
You
Need To Figure Out Your Own Wants and Needs You sound desperate ... but,
it's only you, ultimately. What YOU want, what YOU need, what YOU hope for are
the only things that really matter when making these monumental decisions. Your
love for this man shouldn't be founded on some sense of obligation because of
what you both sacrificed. Take it slower, think it through. Finish college. Don't
move in with him, yet. Sit with the new status of you being on your own, for you,
for a change. Love, Charlie | 
