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Dear Tracy:
Don't go to Colorado
with this person. Ever. It sounds like all of the rest of your life
is wherever you live now (work, school, family, etc.)
Did you have plans for
what you were going to do in Colorado or were you just going to
live on love? Forgive me, but that seems like a pretty thin diet.
Also, if you want my opinion (you must have, or you wouldn't have
asked), you might have been mistaking lust for love. Unfortunately,
it sounds like he was enjoying the excitement of sneaking around
and is bored now that he doesn't have to do that anymore.
What Does "Mature For His Age" Mean, Anyway?
What does mature for
his age at 20 mean, anyway? That he acts 21 instead? I don't know
about you, but I was COMPLETELY immature at 21. I'm only slightly
better now. As for you "putting doubts in his head that he
can't shake", that sounds like a load of garbage aimed at letting
him avoid responsibility for the problem.
At this point, people
may be starting to wonder about the generalizations they see me
making about men. I'm not. I'm making generalizations about people.
Unfortunately, people often think with organs other than their brains.
Unfortunately, people often want something until they have it. Unfortunately,
people are often unwilling to take responsibility for their own
actions.
Anyway, I don't know
if your former boyfriend will ever take you back or if your family
will ever let you forget about the mistakes you made. I wouldn't
bank on it. However, it is likely that you will be able to get back
into school and, after awhile, everything will be back to normal.
Examine
Your Motives -- Are You Bored With Your Life?
As a last note, it sounds
like you might be bored with your life and that this offered an
exciting diversion. I hope that it did, but it'd probably be more
productive to explore the source of the problem and work on a permanent
solution.
Good Luck,
– Mo
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