| Dear John- Unfortunately,
I cannot answer your question very well. When I lost my virginity, my hymen was
already broken and I had an orgasm, which from most people I know, is very rare.
Be
Gentle The only
thing I can recommend is that you are gentle. I don't know how else to explain
this other than spelling it out for you. I recommend before you penetrate her
with your penis, penetrate her with other things first. Use your fingers, use
your tongue, and make sure that she is wet enough that she will experience the
minimum discomfort when you actually have sex. Use a lubricated condom (best with
non-oxynol-9) to make sure there is no unnecessary friction.
 Listen
to Her
The most
important thing is that you listen to her. Decipher
her moans of pleasure with those of pain and ask her to guide you; whether that
means telling you "slow down", "softer", etc, or whether she
guides your body against hers, she needs to feel comfortable and in control. She may hurt or be sore,
or even bleed when it is all said and done, but if you do it right, she will remember
how sweet and gentle you were when she lost her virginity to you. -Alicia |
