Dear Princess,

Let's start from the beginning: First of all, I understand that you may be damaged about the situation in the past.

Situations Are Not the Same

Situations ARE the same. You can't compare porn to tuna melts. She should leave him.

However, how fair is it to this guy if you dismiss him just because he shared a common interest with your ex? That's like getting rid of a guy because he and your ex both liked tuna melts. You should treat each situation differently even though they may appear to be the same.

People have fetishes. Some are just a little bit freakier than others. If he treats you like a princess and respects you, be glad... You've got a leg up on plenty of relationships.

Looking Is Better Than the Real Thing

Don't you dare try to say he is being kind by beating off to porn instead of going out and catching the real thing. There's no difference.

Now, as for the porn thing. Look at this way. Even though it may freak you out little, look at it from this perspective: He'd rather have print when he can easily go out and get the tangible stuff, if you know what I mean.

What kind of advice is that to give to someone who is obviously currently experiencing trama?.

The porn could be just his retreat from reality for a minute, maybe like a warm bath is to you.

Porn damages relationships!

Maybe you should sit and think why porn does hurt you so...Maybe he could be the one to help you heal those wounds.

Let me know how it goes.

– Evette