Dear Princess,

Porn = hurt, because it takes away a women's ability to attract her mate (well that's what we think!).

Insecurity Is the Real Problem

For many reasons porn may hurt the way a women feels. I feel that, as a women, that my mate was more interested in looking at women I cannot compete with. That is what the problem is, insecurity. Yes, even I can admit that is exactly what it is. He is hiding the porn, which makes it sneaky, women hate sneakiness!! He in turn is only doing this for fear of her reaction. Seems like a mean circle, right? Well, first understand why you are feeling this way.

Most Women Feel Insecure About Their Imperfections

Most woman are fat asses and right to feel crappy about their bodies.

Most likely it is because we look at those women, sprawled out in partially sexy clothing, sporting eye lifts, butts lifts, face lifts, boob enhancement; who wouldn't like something that's completely flawless? Then we look at ourselves, and if your having you're period it is much worse when you look down at your naked body and see yourself. Your imperfections are tattooed in your mind. You're not alone in the way you feel; 90% of women, even the ones in mags, feel this way.

Don't Force Him

You are half right; she shouldn't force him. She should just leave him.

What you need to do: Do not demand that he get rid of his personal collection of pornos. This will only make him want to do it more. Plus wouldn't you rather him stop because it hurts you rather then him being forced to?

If You Can't Beat 'Em, Join 'Em

What he needs to do: He obviously needs to make you feel more secure about your body. He needs to concentrate on your body, appreciating what you have to offer. Now if he needs help with this, then it is again "women to the rescue".

As long as she is going to "join 'em", why doesn't she go professional and increase her salary?.

Take a gander at one of his mags and go to your local, "nasty and naughty" store and go shopping for look alikes of the outfits that are in the mag. Can't beat em, join em! Pick something that would interest him, not necessarily something that would make you feel comfortable. Then it's time to take him, hard core!! Take him as he's reading one of these mags, so he completely forgets what's on those pages.

Things Could Be Worse

This might not help you feeling totally comfortable with the situation, he might not give up this dirty little habit but maybe if you're "getting some" good loving, you might not mind that much.

But all in all, this is not a reason to break up. Men are slobs, remember that, they use whats in their pants more than their brain. If this is his only flaw then go with the flow. He could be a closet female dresser, so things could be alot worse.

– Jessica